Illuminating Your Heart's Desires

This past week I went through a situation where I thought that what I wanted and what someone else wanted were mutually exclusive.

The parts of me that have beautifully protected myself over the years wanted to give clarity and make the solution concrete. Something I’ve been extremely good at. I thought I wanted things fixed.

Until I realized they weren’t broken.

My heart’s desires actually ran much deeper than that. And when I was able to see those things, and co-create from that space, I was able to step into complex interpersonal relationships from a space of presence and possibility; while still knowing I was and am and always will be— safe.  I always have a choice and the free will I have is what ensure I can always keep myself safe.

So I recorded an 18-minute meditation for myself in order to channel this into my relationships. It was so powerful, I wanted to share a quick version of the exercise with you.

Illuminating Your Hearts Desires Exercise

Imagine yourself in a field or a place where you feel comfortable or at ease. Wherever that place is, use it as a the platform to jump off whenever you do one of these exercises I send. Take a few deep breaths to settle in.

Once transported there, imagine you are holding a golden heart in your hands. It represents everything you desire. Not the surface cravings or fears, but your deepest desires, the ones that sit below the surface.  In the heart you see reflections of images, symbols, moments, and you spend time with those desires. Feeling them and seeing them. Take as much or as little time for this experience as you need. If you get clarity, feel free to journal. But sometimes just being with the feeling is enough.

In the clearing, you see people moving towards you, each with their own golden heart. It’s the people you’ve chosen to do life and business with. Let anyone who is ready to step forward move forward until you have formed a circle with those relationships you are most focused on right now.

Around you is a small golden hoola hoop of light laying on the ground. You bend over and with the smallest movement of your arm, you draw its light up and around you. In that space your hearts desires begin to fill up the circle and you, until you become a honey golden light within the circle. It continues to fill up until that circle expands and expands, eventually crossing paths with other circles in the group. Together you form a set of interconnected circles, your own hearts desires finding the space where it meets others. 

You can expand and contract that circle at any point so it’s touching or not touching someone else. You get to decide. And when you cross into eachother’s paths and it feels aligned, there’s a flame in the middle of the two of you that grows and grows, being fed by the desires of your heart and the desires of their heart coming together.

You sit in the warmth of that flame realizing what you’ve created together, simply because you were able to fill your own cup with clarity, with awareness, with your deepest wants and needs, and let that spill forward.

You ask the light of the flame to illuminate any cords, or sub-optimal attachments you have with these people you love or anything else that is keeping you from fully stepping into your powers of self-fulfillment and co-creation. These are energetic connections that usually look like “shoulds” or obligations that you fulfill because you feel like you have to, or vice versa. You might feel these as tension pulling on various parts of your body, so check in and recognize that.  One lit up, felt or recognized in some way, you see a scissors dropping into your hands along with an invitation to cut any that feel ready. You cut them knowing that you are not severing the relationship as a whole, simply the part of the connection that is not serving either one of you anymore.

You cut away those connections with glee, watching your own energy return to your bubble and watching their energy return to them, creating more to work from as you move through the world.

Scan your body and recognize any shifts that were made. And notice if there are any remaining connections that are revealing themselves. Ask if there’s any shifts you can make to help support its release. If you don’t sense anything, know that it will come when the time is right.

You thank yourself and return back to your day, carrying a touch of that honey gold light out into your world. Anytime you feel frustrated or small or feel the urge to run away, you can go back to that place where you and your desires are completely self contained and you get to decide exactly how much you feed the flame of shared co-creation based on where you are at any given moment in time.

What we are doing

During this exercise we are covering a lot of ground, we are:

• Getting in touch with what’s important to us so we can embody it and advocate for it.

• Filling our cup so that we have room to give from a space of being full vs. a space of lack — where we don’t have enough energy to support the commitments we make physically. 

• Learning how to feel and find the win-win with others — where all parties are getting what they want.

• Recognizing our own sovereignty and supporting healthy boundaries — creating the ability to expand and contract in our relationship with others in healthy, heart-led ways without needing to control their actions.

• Identifying and releasing sub-optimal connections to others where we believe we need them or ourselves to conform to be in our own power.

• Recognizing what relationships are top of mind for us right now in our current path.

Schedule a complimentary demo with me to explore and deepen any insights that came from this exercise.